THE IMPORTANCE OF GOOD SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP IN THE STABILITY OF OUR MARITAL RELATIONSHIP

I believe this seminar will not be corrupting some innocent people here. But we must not shy away from such facts, because it is the

vocation many of us are into, and vocation which many people are aspiring to. I want to state categorically that marriage does not exhaust in sex alone. Marriage should not be built on sex only, if so, marriage becomes a carnal venture. Sometimes, we advise our younger generation to wait for marriage to begin to enjoy sex, which makes marriage to be inclined more to sex.

This notwithstanding, sex is very important in every marital relationship. Sex is a covenantal attitude between two persons. Sexual life is a sign of oneness which has been established in the Holy Matrimony. It is so important in marriage because it involves "giving and receiving" of two people in a relationship of love. It also bonds life of people who are married, to the point that it cements the relationship. Sex is spiritual, and thus it should be achieved through love and not just to satisfy lustfulness of flesh. It is on this that I would say that when sex is used to achieve Love, reconciliation, procreation and unity, then it is spiritual, but when it is to achieve our pleasure of flesh, it is carnal even in marriage and should be confessed in the confessional. Other informations necessary to help us appreciate our sexual life in marriage.

1. Sex will make meaning to our spiritual orientation if it is achieved through mutual agreement. No one should claim that he/she is superior in our marital relationship. To make this mutuality realized, many things are put into consideration. a. Instill joy to your partner, b. Dress romantically before him or her, c. Develop a neat hygiene, d. Foreplay (romance and fingering).

2. Be ready to enjoy your sexual moments. For some people who are not sexually inclined, should start learning more about it. Your partner would like you to be active during the sex. It will definitely cause lack of interest. Do not just be like a log of wood. 

3. Be Ready to talk about your sexual life with your partner. Open up and discuss about what he/she doesn't do right. And be ready to improve at the next sexual life.

4. Selfishness is deadly in sexual life. This means that a partner is always interested in his or her affair, without knowing if the other is good. Such attitude could create hatred for sex in partner. It is on this ground that we should know that some Ladies achieve orgasm late while some men achieve it early enough. In this case, the man should implore more of foreplay and romances so that the sexual activity will last longer especially for the sake of the wife.

 

I think I will stop here for the moment. We can contribute more for the sake of helping  marriages. Questions are also entertained.