Personal Stories of People Having Sex for the first time

Ashley Mae
I always told my self that I either wanted to wait till I was married or had been in a long committed relationship before I had sex. I've only had two boyfriends in my life, one of them lasted 2 weeks and the other that I am currently still in has only been 35 days.
I had never done anything further then making out and knew I wouldn't go any further till later in the relationship, but I guess I changed my mind.

He's always making me feel good about myself, I trust him completely so I thought I would return the favor. We always go partying/drinking on weekends and we went to a pitt (out door) party and I decided the night before I wanted to pleasure him for once. After a while of drinking him and I went to his truck, we started making out pretty hardcore then we went into the back seat and continued to makeout. Our hands got a little adventurous and I realised he had a boner. I was his 4th girlfriend (where as he would be my first official boyfriend) so I was a little nervous about what I wanted to do and how to go about doing it. I told him to sit back and relaxe so I could please him and I performed oral. I felt better when he confessed that none of his ex's had done that for him. We started getting a little hot and steamy until his brother knocked on the window saying that It was time to go..I went to his house.

We continued what we were doing in the guest bedroom downstairs until I brought up the courage and gathered my thoughts and asked him "Do you want to be my first". He stopped everything and looked at me asking if it's what I wanted. We continued and I asked him if he had a condom, once again he completely stop and said No. Apparently his ex girlfriend was the one to supply everything, so we scattered around the house looking for a condom.. so such luck. He hugged me and said if I was okay with it he would just control himself and pull out. I wasn't so sure about it but like I said, I trust(ed) him 100%.

As it was happening it hurt alot..sharp pains would shoot up into my stomach and between my legs. He would stop and ask if I was okay, he was sincerely worried about me, he wiped the tears from my eyes. I was happy but before either of us could "finish" he stopped because he had a cramp. We cuddled but I was a little upset at how much it hurt and that I gave into temptation after 35 days. I could still feel the pain and the next day I was sore, It hurt to sit up straight and to cross my legs, I later looked at the bed and I saw there was some blood on the sheet and on my underwear (I knew it wasn't my period cause I got it the week before).. So, It explained why it hurt so much..I was/am too embarrassed to tell my boyfriend though.

Kenneth
I'm a 23 year old guy, and i was dating my ex girl who was 16 then and i was 19 years old. We'd known each other for two years, and she was still a virgin and we'd both agreed to have sex when she was 18. We used to kiss and perform oral sex but stops before things went far.
One day she came to visit my me in house, and she was 17 by then. We started kissing and do what we usually, then i told her i cannot wait anylonger but she was so reluctant. Then i accused her of not loving me, because i've been so patient and went on telling her that i am a guy and i've needs. Then i got angry, but she told to get a condom. Then i went to a nearby store and bought a pack of condoms. I began to touch her down there, n tried to stick my finger in her vagina but she screemed. I stopped, then tored 1 condon and put it on.
I'd see the look on her face and the sadness, like i was letting her do something she didn't want or ready to do. I never seemed to care thou cos i never wanted her to change her mind. I immediately wore the condom and stick my penis in, all i'd see was the tears on her face, i went on and on but she never seemed to enjoy then i stopped and told her to dress up and she did. Since then things went bad, and i lost interest on her. She'd call wanting to see me and i'd tell her that i'm not around and i wont be for the whole week.
Then one day i told i called her and told her that we can't continue since i'd found my soulmate. I know it's cold and heartless, and believe you me. I regret evry bit of it. I haven't seen her in 2 years, but i heard that she's now involved with a church man and she's engaged. I'm in a relationship, but it's not really going well. If only i'd reverse the time and support her, and respect her decision things were gonna be different now. I really regret ever forcing her into something she wasn't prepared to do. I cant even forgive myself because, i played her but in the meantime i also think she led me on by allowing me to touch her all over her body. My advise to other guys is that please respect yo women and their decisios, they really deserve that. It's never too late to have sex, if you say you love her, then act like you do and respect her if she's not ready to have sex.

Jen
You know, If you knew me you'd never thought I'd be the one to lose my virginity before I was married. I'm the most, shy, quiet and reserved girl ever.

I am 17. My boyfriend 18. We've been together for 4 months now. The night of our 3 month anniversary I stayed at his. After hours of movies and cuddling he picked me up and took me to his room and sat me on his bed. It was rather cute. He sat next to me and told me he loved me and asked if i'd like to take the next step. I agreed, as I had been waiting for this for a long time.

I was a virgin. He wasn't. But, I couldn't think of anyone else who i'd rather lose it to. I was kind of nervous at first, as he knew what he was doing, but I had no clue.

He sat me on his lap and asked me if I was sure before proceeding to unbutton my shirt and softly kiss me. I wrapped my arms around him and he pulled me closer, and slipped his hands down the front of my jeans. He was so gentle and was constantly asking if I was okay. I was loving every second of it.

After a while, he laid me back and slid off my jeans. Then took off his own. He pushed my underwear to the side and gently pushed in. And yes, we used protection. It hurt a little at first, but I totally ignored it. We moved from his room, to the bathroom and then back again. We both finished and ended up falling asleep together.

It was the most exciting thing I have done in my life. I will never regret it. The fact that my boyfriend cared more about my pleasure then his own meant a lot to me, You don't find a lot of guys like that. And to lose it to someone I truly love is the greatest of all.
Mira
I remember my first time like it was yesterday. It was back in December of 2009. I was 15 and the person i was with was 17. We were only together for about 2 months, but i known him for about 2-3 years so i was sure i could trust him. I've always been the type of girl who believes your first time should be with someone you truly love, and special. But it all happened so fast.

My best friend came to pick me up to take me to my boyfriend's house. Her significant other was also there. We started out watching a movie in his living room with all the lights off, like a regular movie night. Then it slowly turned into way more then i planned. My best friends boyfriend took off his shirt and they cuddled on the floor under some blankets. Here i am, the youngest of them all with no way out. My boyfriend then picked me up and carried me to his room. He laid me on his bed and turned the lights off and began to kiss me. He took off my jeans, then the rest of my clothes and began to go down on me. It wasn't long, i could tell he just did it to make it seem like he cared, but now i realize he didn’t, he just wanted to please himself more then anything.

After he went down on me he quickly removed all of his clothes and put on a condom. Still i lay there, stiff, speechless. In my head I'm nervous and afraid and was NOT at all ready. But i couldn’t speak a word, i just went along with it all, trusting him fully. He at least tried to lighten up my nerves, he jokingly said "assume the position" as he was about to enter me. I tensed up, resisting him inside, but then i gave in and was about to let him enter. So many thoughts running through my head, how it was too soon, i wasn't ready. I looked out the window and closed my eyes bracing myself for any pain. As he went inside i felt slight pain and pinching. I felt nothing extremely good, just thrusting. It lasted about 20 minutes. His mom came home and we all left. A week after we had sex again, but still nothing mind blowing. Then the problems occur.

Near the end of December he told me he wanted to take a break because he heard "rumors". Which i believed like an idiot. There were no rumors, he just wanted the fastest way out without it being obvious. He told me he didn’t want to break up because he needed me. So we didn’t talk a few weeks, when he finally talked to me he said we need to break up until he trusted me again. Months passed and nothing. Even after all that reassuring me we'd get back together, nothing. And there she was, another girl he was talking to...

Fast forward to now. He led me on from December all through July. It was ridiculous. He's still with the same girl and they're engaged and have a baby on the way. I don’t talk to him anymore at all, but i will never forget all what he put me through. He ruined my plans for a first time for me, and also my future. I wanted to lose it to someone i'd be with a lifetime. I've met and been with a great guy for over a year now. Now im 17 and my current boyfriend is 19 and he's the one who's been here for me, he's the one who deserved to be my first. He is truly amazing and he deserved my virginity. I honestly know and feel this is the guy i'll be with all my life, and become my future husband. But because of my mistake and not speaking up, i feel like i have nothing special to give him. Even though i was young and didn’t know better, i'll always blame myself. And even though it's been over a year ago, i'll never forget those months of pain and regret.
Rachel
My first time was with my boyfriend of 9 months. We were both 16, and we loved each other so much. We talked about having sex before, and we both thought we were ready, so we decided that if the chance came up, we would do it.
One night I went over his house to hang out. His mom left the house to go out, so we were home alone. We started kissing and making out on the couch, and he put his hand up my skirt, and i had my hand on his crotch. We were getting really into it, so I asked if he wanted to, and he said yes. We got a condom out of my purse and he put it on. We could not believe that we were going to do it.
We went up to his room, because I wanted to loose my virginity in his bed, because i was comfortable there. I went on his bed, and he took off my underwear. We started kissing again, and hugging. I laid back and he got on top of me, and he entered me. It only lasted a couple of minutes, because it really really hurt. Afterwards, we got up and hugged each other. We started to cry, because we finally made love, and we loved each other so much.
I love my boyfriend so much, and I know that I want to spend the rest of my life with him. Me and him are closer than ever, and sex just made us more comfortable than ever. I am glad that I waited to have sex with him. I love him.
Amanda
My first time was when I was 15, and it was 2 days before my and my first serious boyfriend's 6 months. My boyfriend (Dylan) at the time we're completely head over heels for each other, we had talked about raising a family and basically spending the rest of our lives together.
Well, the night it happened we were in his bedroom, just watching television. We had discussed whether or not we wanted to have sex beforehand, so we had condoms in case things went to far. While we were watching television, he tapped my shoulder and told me that he was in love with me. He then kissed me and things got more intimate and we had sex.
It didn't hurt like I was expecting it too, it was actually quite pleasant. The night ended well and we stayed together for about 6 more months.
We parted ways 2 weeks before our anniversary. It was heartbreaking for both of us, but we both knew that neither one of us seemed happy in the relationship anymore, so it was for the best.
We are both still amazing friends, like we were for 3 years beforehand. I can honestly say, I don't regret it. I was a teenager in love, and I still love Dylan, I'm just happy I lost my virginity to a guy that I can always trust, will always be there for me, and someone who I love, even though we aren't together.


My advice; there is no set time, age, place, or anything when you'll be ready to lose your virginity. When it's time, you'll know because you know won't have any regret with it.
Danielle
I was 15 when i lost my virginity, he was my first proper boyfriend and i would of classed him as my first love, but obviously i was wrong.
We were dating for only a few weeks, i used to go round to his house all the time and we used to kiss, that was all but things got a bit hot and heavy as the night went on, i didn't know deep down whether i was ready or not but i went ahead with it anyway.. so as we go into his bed it wasnt long before he put on a condom and i must admit it really really hurt me...after a while i told him to stop as it was hurting me too much.
Days later he told me we should try again but i told him i didnt want to, i want to wait a bit longer till the next time....shortly after i found out he was sleeping with other girls, i actually thought he loved me and would wait for me..clearly not.
I will never understand why boys cheat on girls, if you're not happy with the person your with, why hurt them and destroy their heart?! break up with them before you cause them pain...
I'm 17 now and i've had a relationship since but it didnt last long as similar thing happened although i am much more matured now and know where i stand with boys.. must admit i am very very picky about boys now due to whats happened with me in my past.. i think that is why i am so reserved:)
So to all the girls out there, make so you're ready and feel comfortable before you do anything, never pressure yourself into something you dont wanna do. that was my mistake. Dont feel like cause your friends are doing it, you have to do it. Do it cause YOU want to.x
Kendal
The first time I had sex wasn’t perfect. A week before, me and my boyfriend decided we would wait and have sex on December 28th (our anniversary). We were both virgins and weren't experienced. We had done things before this like fool around and we've both started masturbating at a young age. He was 16 and I was 14, and I loved him. I knew he loved me because at the time I was going through hard times with my depression and getting off drugs (weed). He was very supportive and that’s when I knew I wanted him to be my first.
My parents left to go shopping and he came inside and we went to my room. It was March 13th, 2011. We made out for awhile, but then we fooled around. We did new stuff none of us has ever done and everything was perfect. Then he asked me if I wanted to make love with him. It was the cutest thing ever. We had been dating 3 months at the time and I knew I didn’t want to wait any longer. I told him yes and we did. It lasted a few minuets and none of us finished because we didn’t have a condom. For me, it didn’t hurt. It felt really really really amazing. So perfect. I didn’t even feel it go in because we had so much lube.
After we laid together and talked. He told me he was mine forever and he`ll never leave my side. He told me he loved me more then anyone in the world. By writing this, I know I love him more then anything. If I could take anything back, it would be the timing. I wish we would of waited. But I will never regret who I did it with.
Me and Glenn (my boyfriend) have been together for almost 6 months now. I really hope we last forever. Its not just sex for us. Or trying something new. Its love were making.
Kathleen
My first time was with my first serious boyfriend, we had been together for around 5 months. It was definitely awkward, quite funny, but very sweet, it didn't hurt, and I have never regretted it. We were together for around 2 years in total. Our relationship ended mutually, we just grew apart. We are still friends. :) Not all relationships are bad when you're young.
Jenna
So as a 21 yr old woman, who has never had a boyfriend, i was beginning to think i would never be comfortable with men. For me it was beginning to seem like i was going backwards with guys, and i'd always thought i'd be in a stable relationship before i did anything. So here enter's what's his name, a random 26 yr old guy, who's 'into' me, or atleast into getting into my pants. tuesday i meet him at a bar, wednesday he takes me out to dinner. he's not fantastic looking, he's not charming, and he's not really my type, but he is a nice guy who tells me he likes the way i look. I know anything he says might not be the truth, but at that point i didn't care.
so friday rolls around and i meet up with him at a friends place, he's drunk and i've also had a few. The conversation gets a little vulgar and i leave the room, he follows me into the bedroom and at this point i tell him i feel like i've been leading him on. to my suprise he wants to talk to me, i tell him i'm a virgin and he says thats ok i'll 'teach you'. when he said that i was so unhappy with the way it sounded, and with what i was about to do that i left the room and cried. after i calmed down i went back to the bedroom and talked to him again, he said 'what do you want, it's just sex'. again to my suprise i didn't run out of the room, i realised that it was just sex, and something that i thought was a big deal, my virginity, began to get smaller and smaller. i told him that i wouldn't touch him without a condom on, he wrapped it up, told me to control myself onto him. in the beginning it hurt a bit, but after that it became a lot of fun. this experience was only possible because of the way I felt, it shouldn't matter who the guy is, or what he says, YOU have to be comfortable with yourself. I was never pressured to lose it, and i'm proud of the way i did. even if i never see him again, i have learned from that experience, it has allowed me to be more comfortable with myself, and to grow as a young woman.
Tracey
Truthfully, I never thought I would loose my virginity at such a tender age. I had always agreed with my friends and made a promise to wait till the evening of our weddings.. the so called HONEYMOON.
So I met this guy named Ryan at a Christmas party. We started talking and less than a month we were dating. It was really great at first because we used to talk and cuddle but not to the extremities. Within three weeks we were getting more deeper then one night when I was sleeping at my place, he called in the middle of the night telling me that he wanted to make love to me. At first I just thought he was just trying to hear what I would say but in the end I noticed he was serious. I then had to come to terms with myself about the issue so after some serious consideration, I said to myself I was not ready so I'll wait till my wedding day.
Then it so happened on his birthday I went to meet him and give him a gift I had bought to say happy birthday. He said he wanted to spend the day with me and to me that wasn't a problem so I spent it with him. It started with what had become a routine when we were together then out of a sudden he took out a packet of condoms.. I told him I wasn't ready but he pleaded till I gave up. It was painful and because I wasn't ready I was left with a lot of guilt to the extent that it still haunts me up to this day.
My lesson and what I would like to tell you is make sure you are ready, if not stand your ground and say NO! It's hard I know but the aftermath is much enjoyable than to loose it without being ready. Secondly, be sure to have think through it because this is one of your big decisions in life and you wouldn't want to regret it for the rest of your life. Thirdly, make sure if you don't want it you avoid places where you will be left in compromising positions that you can't say no and if you are ready make sure you have preplanned for the event to avoid unwanted pregnancies. As for me and Ryan (not his actual name) we are still dating though I no longer feel the same way towards him because he just wasn't patient with me.

Rylie
My first time was with my boyfriend of almost two years. We were very much in love and we had been talking about taking this next step in our relationship for a long time, but we could never find the right place or time to be alone. But, one day, we were hanging out at his house, watching TV and we started making out. We got very into it and he told me that his dad was sleeping and he had condoms, if we wanted to. In that moment, I told him yes, I did. So he went to get the condoms and as I sat there waiting for him, I had these mixed emotions. I was happy that I was finally going to experience this wonderful act of love with someone I loved and knew cared and respected me, but I was also really scared. I mean, I could get pregnant or something. I also felt, in a way, that I was letting down my family, being raised in a Catholic background, premarital sex is frowned upon. And by the time he came back from his room with the condoms, I was letting my fears get the best of me. But, he sat down on the couch and we continued to make out. He asked me, "Are you sure?" and I looked straight in his eyes and I had this gut feeling that it was exactly what I wanted and I wouldn't want it with anyone else.
He went in his guest bedroom because it was the closest room to his living room and we began kissing. We undressed each other and got in bed together. I have admit, it was very painful. I did not bleed, like some do though. Because we have such a comfortable relationship, I was able to communicate with him how it was hurtful and he offered to stop, but I told him it was fine. Of course he went slow for me though. I did not orgasm, but he did (I didn't expect to though). After that, we layed naked together for about 20 minutes and talked about it. For me, losing my virginity, was an amazing and comfortable experience. There was no awkwardness and no regrets after. Losing your virginity is not a race, my boyfriend and I were both 16 when we lost it together, but it is not something that can be rushed. When you love someone and with someone you know truly respects you, then losing your virginity will be a meaningful and special experience, like it should be.
Erica and A.J
I'm seventeen and I didn't lose my virginity til a little while ago. It was to my boyfriend and this is how it happened. So, we met one time when I was hanging out with some of my friends. He and I clicked immediately and he was, and still is, different than other guys I've dated. The way he hugs me, and later kissed me was, different. For once I didn't feel like he just wanted sex. He is a little bit older than me and more experienced sexually and never pressured me to do anything. He always stopped when I asked him to. We had been dating six months when we hung out. He kissed me all over and asked me to give him my virginity. He tried but it hurt so bad I asked him to stop. He did. I apologized and he told me I had nothing to be sorry about. We kissed and hugged some more. He told me he wanted to make love to me so bad but I wasn't ready.

The day before Valentine's day, I saw him again. He picked me up from school during a break and we went to his house. He took me to his room and kissed and hugged me some more. He started to undress me and I didn't stop him. He pulled the covers over and I got in his bed. He got on top of me and kissed all over me again. When he tried to get inside of me again it hurt but I didn't stop him this time. After a while it didn't hurt anymore, I actually started to enjoy it. I'm so glad I waited for somebody who actually had feelings for me and I for him. We are still together. :)
Callie
Me and my boyfriend have been together for 6 months. We love each other more than anything. I am 14 and he's 15. On our 6th month, we began to fool around in his bed. We started just by making out. I took his shirt off, and then he took mine off. He started kissing me in a way that made me wana get it over with, and have sex. because i loved him. But we both decided before that neither of us had any intentions to have sex until we've been together a year or so.

After an hour or so, we were both naked and i was laying on top of him, moving slowly up and down his body, we were kissing passionately when i felt him enter me. Neither of us meant for it to happen, but we allowed it to anyway. I began to get a little rough and go faster and faster on top of him but I pulled him out of me when i realized he wasn’t even wearing a condom!

For my first time, I really regret what I allowed to happen. We weren’t protected after allllll the times we've talked about how contraceptives were a MUST . I felt so used by the person i loved and I actually cried because I regretted what happened. But I realize that he didn't use me, it was an accident. If anyone's, it was mine for moving up on him with my naked body.

Nothing about it was special. He didn't tell me that he loved me, and the whole time I was thinking what a mistake it was, when I should've been thinking about how much i loved him.

My advice is to wait....... even with the person you might think you love more than anything.
Maya
The first time with my boyfriend was wonderful. We were both virgins and I did not feel any pressure. We both felt like it was ready to happen as we has been going out for 2 years. We, of course, used condoms and the whole thing went about so naturally. There was no awkwardness, no embarrassment, and definitely no regrets. We are very much in love with each other and sexual intercourse was another step in our wonderful relationship.

My advice for people who are looking to have sex for the first time is that make sure you will have absolutely no regrets afterwards. Make sure it will be someone who will be gentle, and slow, and kind. It takes communication to have sex. Make sure your partner knows what you want. Contraception is a must!
Abi
Well....i was only 13 when i lost my virginity but i was going out with a boy who was 15 and yes we're not together anymore. He went on holiday for a week and i didnt see him so we planned that when he got back i would go to his house, we talked about having sex before but never planned it.

So i went to his house and we sat on his bed and started making out, he pulled a condom out of his pocket and said, ''only if your ready babe' i replied yes i am..as i thought he was the one i wanted to loose it with. His fingers went up my skirt and later on he put it in and yes it hurt ALOT at first but you get use to it. The condom snapped and he got another one and i said no can we try another time? he said sure anything for you.

That night I went home and cried my self to sleep, the next day at school my friends knew somthing was wrong so i told them...they couldnt believe what id done and now they dont talk to. As for my boyfriend he didnt get in touch with me for the next few days and when i saw him he broke up with me.

So..my advise is dont have sex at the age of 13 unless your really ready and like the person, but as a result of loosing your virginity you may loose your friends. Also if you do have sex make sure you use protection.